Comunication and Apology

All of us, at times find the need to apologize to our wife, husband, or sweetie. There are right and wrong apology quotes and how you offer up yours could be not so great, or the best apology line your sweetie has ever heard.

Some good tips to remember when using apology quotes or lines, is try not to do this immediately after a big argument. Give yourself time to think about what you want to say. After all, you are mad, and they are mad right after an argument so taking a breath and counting to ten before you apologize is a good idea.

Also, don't ever use any sort of apology quote that isn't sincere or makes it seem like you're only saying you are sorry because they want to hear it-if you do this, they'll know it and your apology won't mean a thing. Finally, it's always a good idea to say, "I love you," after any apology quote, whether it's spoken verbally or written. The best apology quotes are verbal, however.

Let's take a look at some good apology quotes:

1. If you have gotten so mad you have aimed your anger at appearance or faults - "You're ugly and stupid, I don't know why I married you."
a. I know I hurt your feelings and you are not ugly or stupid. I never want to hurt you like that again, please forgive me-I love you.
b. What I said was in anger, I never meant it-you know that. I wouldn't be whole without you, your beauty, both inner and outer, and the advice you give me every day on how to be a good person means so much to me.
c. I know what I said hurt you. I know you are a better person than I am and will let this pass. I promise not to hurt your feelings again. I love you.

2. If your argument has been about her mother, his mother, or a close friend - "Your mother hates me and I don't like her either." Or, "I hate your friend Bob, he's always coming between us and you always take his side."
a. I didn't mean what I said about your mother/father. They have been so wonderful and supportive to both of us. Please forgive me, as I know they would.
b. I know Bob is your friend and he means a lot to you. I guess I just wanted to say something to hurt you and I didn't mean it-please forgive me, I love you.
c. Wow, I was just so mad when I said that about your Mom. You know how much she means to me. Please forgive me, I was just angry when those words came out.

3. If you are fighting about money, which is probably the biggest reason couples fight - "you always spend too much," or "I'm spending whatever I want-you do!"
a. I know money is tight and I think we both have a pretty good idea what our budget is, so let's not fight about it anymore. I think you have been pretty responsible, I'm sorry for what I said.
b. Maybe we both spend too much money and that's not all your fault or mine. Could we sit together and figure out a good budget so we don't fight about this again-I really need your help doing this.
c. I never meant to attack you about money. I know I could use a little help in my budgeting skills. I guess I felt like if I thrashed out at you, it would make you feel bad-and I don't want that ever! Let's talk about our money so we don't fight about it again.

4. If you are fighting about the children and how they behave - "You never discipline Sally and Henry gets away with everything! If I put them in a time out, you let them off the hook. You don't even know how to raise our kids."
a. You know I didn't mean that about the kids-you are great at raising them and with both of us together as a team, we will have great kids. Can we talk about it?"
b. We have both put a lot of effort in the kids, but I know how much more you seem to do. Can we talk about guidelines for the kids we both like and stick to them? I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings. I didn't mean to.
c. I know I'm just as guilty when it comes to discipline. I need your help. I'm sorry and let's talk about what we can do about it so we don't fight anymore.

5. If you are arguing about just about anything and tempers flare and things are said that neither of you mean, try some of these suggestions.
a. I don't know where that came from. I was totally not being myself. I hope you can forgive me for what I said. I do love you with all my heart.
b. I never meant for our argument to get so out of hand. I would be nothing without you and you I think I mean a lot to you. Let's just snuggle and talk.
c. Wow, that was stupid of me to say those things. I guess I was just mad and felt like hurting you. I think it's easiest to hurt the ones you love. Can you forgive me? Can we talk about it? I love you.

6. Finally, if you have had a plain old bad day and want to take it out on someone, instead of starting an argument in the first place, try this:
a. I had the worse day and feel really rotten. Can we do something together to take my mind off it? You always make me feel better.
b. Did you have a bad day? I can see it on your face. What can I do to make it better.

Arguments and how you apologize don't have to be hard if you take this advice and speak in a tone that is genuine when apologizing. Talk together as a couple about what your boundaries should be if you do argue and how you can stop bad ones before they start. Planning, closeness, and truthfulness are key in any romantic relationship, so when using apology quotes, make sure you do it the right way first to avoid the argument getting bigger.
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